Monday, September 11, 2017

Awkward Things People Say to Big Families {VIDEO}

After an unpleasant run-in at the grocery store, I knew I had to make this video.

(Spoiler alert: even though you're entitled to have whatever opinion you want about big families, certain opinions are quite rude if they exit your mouth within hearing distance of another human being.)

Enjoy, and don't forget to share it with a friend who can relate!


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  1. Draw me some pictures. Lol.

    I think the only reason I dont get too much attention is that I live in the heart of Utah Valley.

    My favorite was the lady silently counting heads from a distance. But I couldn't judge; I do a head count every time we move on too.

    And you're adorable btw. Cute video.

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    1. Thanks! I kind of understand the silent counting. I don't think we're that many but if I see a family walking around with 5 kids I think "Wow, that's a big family!" and then I realize we've got one more than they do. We are quite a sight!

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  2. Haha, I love this! I was always jealous of big families growing up as an only child with only a couple cousins I never see. I get the opposite comments about how I need to hurry and have more kids. People are scared of only children.

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    1. People are weird. Someone on the blog's FB page pointed out that if you have none, you get asked when you're having kids. If you have one, you get asked when you're having a second. If you have 2 of the same sex then you get asked if you're going to try for a boy/girl, and then once you DO have another then you're suddenly crazy for having 3+. It's weird.

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  3. Great video! I appreciate the timing of this, because at the library's toddler time today, a couple ladies were talking about fitting in with the "one boy, one girl" trend (when did that even start? It's so stupid). And I was just like, "Umm, I like big families!" It's interesting how much location can make a difference. When my family moved away from a small town in New York state and my mom was pregnant with #6, us kids were like, "We're so cool, we're such a big family!" But then we moved to a city in Kansas where there are tons of gigantic Catholic families, and 5-6 kids is perfectly normal, and it's unsurprising to run into families with up to 10 or 12 kids.

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    1. Um, unless you are adopting (and often not even then) you really cannot "choose" to be part of the "one boy, one girl" trend. You get what you get and you don't get upset.

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  4. Great video! I too have 6 children and have heard all of these. lol My favorite was one day at the ball fields, I only had 5 kids at the time, a lady I was talking to couldn't get over it. Flabbergasted, she finally asked, "How do you get them all ready in the mornings?!" I laughingly replied, "I only have to dress the 2 year old." I also get this statement a lot, "You must be super organized." lol Yes, yes I am. Keep posting! I love the laughs. (-:

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    1. You know, I think part of the reason people get so surprised is because they're thinking you have six toddlers running around. Having a lot with a large age span is harder in some ways, but it's also easier in others.

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  5. I have friends who have 8 children. When some asks, "You know what causes that, right?" the husband replies, "Yes, and I'm very good at it!" ;)

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  6. Oh my gosh..I absolutely love this! I have 8 kids. I have heard them all!

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  7. I have four kids and got "Are you done yet" at Aldis. Of course I wanted to say, "Is your face done yet?", but I am trying to be a good example to the children and have to respond "They are all blessings (insert nervous giggle)." Why oh why do people need to feel the need to talk to people.

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    1. I'm always torn between wanting to have the witty comeback and wanting to respond graciously in a way that shows them that kids are blessings. Usually I compromise by just stammering stupidly and thinking for the rest of the day what I SHOULD have said.

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  8. LOL - one of your best yet! I especially love the "I'm like the Pied Piper!" comment! Keep on being proud, and the loving Mom that you are! Your children are all very lucky, and you are very Blessed!

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  9. From one of my other favorite bloggers:

    https://www.simchafisher.com/2010/07/23/7-quick-takes-snappy-answers-to-stupid-questions-edition/

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    1. That is so hysterical! I love the first one. And all of them, really.

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  10. Very well said. I get the "aren't you going to try for a girl?" Drives me mad. Thanks for linking up to #FridayFrolics

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  11. Oh my goodness, I cringed at what the man said. Like you say I think grocery guy got nervous. But some of the comments are unacceptable. When I had our second child, a much loved daughter, we had so many rude comments - "Oh what a shame, no boy" and "are you going to try for a boy" and "you must really want a boy to complete your family" Errrm, nope actually and even if we did it would be none of your business. People are so rude! #FridayFrolics

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  12. Thank you for this!!! I get questions about my four. all. the. time!

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  13. My husband and I have four children (now adults). With no particular reason (or fault of my own), they were all born within what seems to be a mathematically impossible period of time (1986-1990). The (unsolicited) comments and feedback I received were mind blowing:

    Q: "Are you Catholic?"
    A: "No, I'm a Pregartarian"

    Q: "Were they accidents?"
    A: "Yes, and the insurance settlement proceeds are SWEEEEEET! I had to sue my husband, but he was cool with it"

    Q: (asked while I had two children in a stroller and was 8 months pregnant with No.3) "What are you, STUPID?!"
    A: This answer is unsuitable for this blog; and yes, my children heard swearing at an early age.

    Q: "WOW! They all look so much alike!"
    A: "Yeah I got lucky that my mailman is a redhead like my husband."

    Q: "How old are they?" (One child walking, one child in stroller, one child on my hip)
    A: "3, 2 and 1"
    Q: "AND YOU'RE PREGNANT AGAIN????!!!"
    A: "Is that what this is??? Thanks - good to know"

    All of the questions above were posed by women. To another woman. These types of comments were NEVER made to my husband. He was always congratulated by women and told he had a "beautiful family". I was shamed, scolded and humiliated in public by women who had no business commenting on the size of my family or giving their opinion about my family planning choices. 28, 29, 30 and 31 years later, I'm still flabbergasted by it.


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    1. I laughed so hard at the last one. I'm using that!

      I noticed the same thing - my husband usually gets positive/admiring comments when he's out with all the kids, way more than me. Of course, if he's somewhere without them (like at work) and it comes up that he has 6 kids, people are just as flabbergasted. This would actually be a really interesting sociology study: how people react differently to dads with a lot of kids versus moms with a lot of kids.

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  14. We offer our family as a "Public Counting Exercise", as if our day is sponsored by the letter S and the number 8.

    It's fun/annoying to see people counting to themselves when we show up. Even better is the people who count out loud.


    "Lookie there, EthelMay! Lookie at all them there childrens! I's gonna count them!"

    "Uhh,... One.... Two.... Threeee..... um.... Four.... Five! EthelMae, they gots five children!!"

    [#6 pops up from the bottom of the stroller]

    "Lookie there! That little feller just appeared! Heavens to Betsy! They gots them SIX childrens...."

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    1. That's the best, when the baby pops up and surprises them! Then they have to start counting all over again.

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  15. We have 7. Outside a Wal-mart bathroom, after several other questions..."What does your husband do? Besides make babies?"

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  16. I have 7 kids. I'm also pregnant with # 8. The comments drive me insane - more because my kids are starting to feel like they are being made fun of (because they are). I personally love when the heads start to bob as people are counting. Seriously, congrats! You can count to 7. So can my 3 year old.

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    1. Poor kids. I hope they learn to wear it like a badge of honor (although sometimes it's hard when people are mean.)

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  17. Yes! This! I have 4 kiddos and I hear these all the time! I even choose to watch more children than my own as I do in home day care! How "CRAZY" am I!? Im waiting for the day that i can pull that quick wit out and come back at their nonsense questions!

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    1. I'm still waiting for mine... hope you can manage it because I never can!

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  18. Loved this, Jenny! And chose it for my feature this week! #FridayFrivolity

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  19. Haha - in fairness, I think this would all be worth it just to get to pretend to people that you have no idea whose kids they all are, because that sounds like fun! Thanks so much for joining us for #FridayFrolics

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