tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post6204205698531659856..comments2024-03-17T03:51:31.981-04:00Comments on Unremarkable Files: Why I Don't Care Anymore About Being the Fun MomJenny Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06320766378823015885noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-28456264383900299832016-11-14T10:07:48.945-05:002016-11-14T10:07:48.945-05:00Being 18 when our first was born, my husband and I...Being 18 when our first was born, my husband and I thought we were going to be the coolest parents ever. LOL Of course, living 15 miles from everybody else limits the friends visiting all in itself, but we are still much less fun and cool than we thought we would be. Instead we are wondering how the parents of most the other kids who are 10-15 years older than us are so stupid and Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10598687860620973548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-46584175995759328392016-11-07T11:52:50.896-05:002016-11-07T11:52:50.896-05:00AMEN to this!! Everyone in our neighborhood was i...AMEN to this!! Everyone in our neighborhood was installing the theater and game rooms, getting pool tables, game systems, etc. For awhile we thought maybe we should try to keep up with the Joneses but frankly, we didn't have the money at that point. <br />Later, I heard one of these "fun" moms admit she didn't like having her teen son's friends over at all hours, cleaning Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03409172223069641348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-6061419153906474072016-11-04T14:41:55.794-04:002016-11-04T14:41:55.794-04:00It's not that my kids' friends aren't ...It's not that my kids' friends aren't welcome here or that I don't enjoy getting to know them; it's just that the friends' opinion on my house is not my main focus. Whether they think my house is a fun place to hang out or not, my concern is whether my kids feel loved unconditionally at home by us.Jenny Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320766378823015885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-25210712688935267382016-11-04T13:33:30.891-04:002016-11-04T13:33:30.891-04:00I thoroughly love having one of my daughters frien...I thoroughly love having one of my daughters friends to join us for dinner I get to know who she spends her time with and I often get discuss topics that otherwise might not come up. I'd much rather have the kids at my house that way I know who the kids are than having her at someone else's home. I don't always have cool snacks or an xbox but an occasional dinner with another kid at paperjunk-lchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12675375535981883597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-12286125502101692672016-11-02T23:02:57.598-04:002016-11-02T23:02:57.598-04:00Yeah, I am SO not the fun mom. I can be quite bori...Yeah, I am SO not the fun mom. I can be quite boring, actually. <br /><br />We do have a trampoline though. But neighborhood kids generally piss me off and I tell them to go home.AiringMyLaundryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051140760624657630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-45955790083737738572016-11-02T01:25:42.441-04:002016-11-02T01:25:42.441-04:00I may have posted today on Facebook how I was exci...I may have posted today on Facebook how I was excited that there were 10 kids on our front porch, and only 4 were my own children. But, I never let the neighbor kids into our home, and have no desire to do so, and certainly never feed them (I almost never buy snacks) but I kinda am that "fun mom" who plays with the kids in the neighborhood. <br /><br />My house growing up was the not Katelyn Faganhttp://www.whatsupfagans.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-85922603630694240362016-11-01T21:44:36.018-04:002016-11-01T21:44:36.018-04:00So, it sounds like you won't be letting all th...So, it sounds like you won't be letting all their friends smoke their pot at your cool/not cool house either? Sounds fine. Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08262785743929817192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-16962605137920468412016-11-01T21:36:25.880-04:002016-11-01T21:36:25.880-04:00I admire your outlook on this topic! Friends are f...I admire your outlook on this topic! Friends are fun but family is forever. Perfection. I too, just want to wrap my kids in a safety net from this chaotic and sometimes scary world! Julie @ Just the Joy'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027719716675836943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-29084938389431984612016-11-01T17:00:21.791-04:002016-11-01T17:00:21.791-04:00Amen sister. I have gone through the same transfor...Amen sister. I have gone through the same transformation. Maybe it is a personality thing. It stresses me out to deal with a lot of other people around, buying food that people will think is awesome (I'd rather just cater to my own tastes and not cast pearls before swine, haha!), and having stuff that "kids like" but I don't (e.g. Video games etc.). I think it's awesome whenMarilynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17085334272613025173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-3760611943227417862016-11-01T16:04:30.098-04:002016-11-01T16:04:30.098-04:00I hear you, but sometimes the hang out place doesn...I hear you, but sometimes the hang out place doesn't need to be fancy. We don't have any of the cool things, but the kids still hang out here. As they get older it is nice for kids to have a safe place and I am fine with it being here. Sometimes I kick them all out and tell them to go home, but they all find their way back here. Queen Mom Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04947788522821447557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-77409121322294051592016-11-01T12:41:40.695-04:002016-11-01T12:41:40.695-04:00Nice! I loved how you ended: I want them to feel t...Nice! I loved how you ended: I want them to feel that even on the toughest days, home is the one place they can be themselves and be accepted for who they are.<br /><br />And if they want to bring their friends over sometimes, I guess that's cool, too.<br /><br />:)Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04722246854586144761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-67466172754805473402016-11-01T10:25:49.710-04:002016-11-01T10:25:49.710-04:00Maybe ever mom has delusions of the same sort when...Maybe ever mom has delusions of the same sort when her kids are young and she doesn't realize how much work it is to entertain one or two kids, letalone an entire neighborhood!Jenny Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320766378823015885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-19034131509410732102016-11-01T10:24:28.365-04:002016-11-01T10:24:28.365-04:00I like the term "domestic church." In Mo...I like the term "domestic church." In Mormon circles we believe that the temple is the house of God and the holiest place on earth, but we also say a lot that "only the home can compare with the temple in sacredness." (Not as catchy as "domestic church," but I think the sentiments are similar!) <br /><br />Also, if you enjoy playing Candyland you're welcome to Jenny Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320766378823015885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-62882096054332638392016-11-01T09:30:12.709-04:002016-11-01T09:30:12.709-04:00This is such great advice!! Kids need that loving...This is such great advice!! Kids need that loving security!! You may not be the "fun mom", but you are the best mom!!<br />I've invited you to another quote challenge. Hopefully this is better timing since the baby is older!<br />https://purpleslobinrecovery.wordpress.com/2016/11/01/quipped-quote/PurpleSlobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323141115018411511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-38750800445133607582016-10-31T16:20:55.664-04:002016-10-31T16:20:55.664-04:00This is wonderful, Jenny. I too had visions of coo...This is wonderful, Jenny. I too had visions of coolness once upon a time. Now I realize parties stress me out and friends had better be respectful or else. :) Having my home as a refuge from the storm is so important. Thank you for saying it so nicely!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18305525065559620685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-84398095239318275292016-10-31T14:58:46.438-04:002016-10-31T14:58:46.438-04:00I LOVE this.I LOVE this.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01155303404223970814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094700953309998492.post-64776108255428371472016-10-31T11:18:27.226-04:002016-10-31T11:18:27.226-04:00I think this is a great reflection, and as someone...I think this is a great reflection, and as someone new to this whole parenting gig, this is very helpful :) Friends will come and go, but family is what will stick around, so it's vital to create a strong, holy family environment! (Catholics call it the "domestic church") But, like you said, in our society/culture, it's easy to forget this! And really, when you think about it, AnneMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13462442204217572325noreply@blogger.com